Wednesday, 5 November 2014

What My Partner Thinks About Me Wearing Lolita Fashion

Hey all! Today I thought I'd discuss a question most Lolita girls ask for input in - what does your partner think of you wearing Lolita? I think we've all heard a sad story where a girl's boyfriend doesn't like Lolita fashion, or the girl wearing it, and it's truly a disappointing thing. There's also the case of whether you got into Lolita before or after you met your boyfriend, or indeed whether you met your boyfriend in Lolita.


I met my boyfriend, Rob, 6 years ago. Controversially, I was asking to work at his shop for my secondary/high school work experience when I was 15. I was just getting into Lolita that year. The first occasion I met him was to sort some paperwork for the work experience, and I was just wearing 'regular' alternative clothes. The second time I met him was at J-Con 2010 and I was wearing Lolita. He didn't say anything about it, just asked me if I was looking forward to working in his shop that next week. I was really nervous since he seemed really serious and mature haha, and also because it was one of my first outings in Lolita. >_<


As we got to know each other more and eventually began a relationship, he never really said anything about Lolita fashion, positive or negative. I think I came in one time from a meet and when he saw what I was wearing, he said 'Aww, that's cute, you should wear that to J-Con!'. A short discussion where I asked Rob what he thought about Lolita fashion resulted in 'Well, I don't really understand it but it makes you happy so I'm not bothered.'

I think that's the approach all partners should take to the fashion! I mean sure, if they love it then great but something that you do should never affect your partner. If they don't like it, it's their problem and they can choose to work past it or take another direction. I wouldn't care if Rob didn't like me wearing Lolita fashion - it makes me feel happy, and pretty and it has nothing to do with him. The occasions that I wear Lolita aren't usually occasions I spend much time with Rob, other than J-Con, in which case he is usually running around organising everything anyway, so I don't have the problem where I want to wear Lolita with him and he wouldn't want me to. However, I can see it being a problem if you wanted to wear Lolita to an occasion with your partner and they were strongly against it but again, it's not harming them so why should they care?

I would go as far as saying that if my partner abjectly hated Lolita fashion, didn't want me wearing it regardless whether I was with him or not or made me feel bad for wearing it, I would break up with him.


Some people might think that such a reason to break up is superficial, but it's not just about fashion. Sure, I love fashion, it's a large part of my life and if my partner hated my fashion, I'd break up with him and question how we even started dating in the first place; it's the fact they would be outwardly oppressing a part of you and telling you to change it due to the fact they don't like it. If they don't like your fashion and want you to change it to suit them, what else will they do that with? It's a scary thought. If you'd rather sacrifice your personal happiness to be in a relationship with such a person then I have news for you, son,


So there's my two cents on the discussion! Rob doesn't really care about Lolita fashion, it doesn't bother him that I wear it and I certainly wouldn't care if he did have anything against it. I've found the general consensus of many Lolita girls is that their partner either thinks their fashion is cute or doesn't mind it - I think any relationship where the partner hates the fashion is not destined to be a long relationship. What are your thoughts on the matter? What does your partner think of Lolita fashion?

Review: Isa Knox X2D2 Original Recovery Emulsion

*Listening to: Shores of California by The Dresden Dolls*

Hey everyone! I recently finished a sample of Isa Knox X2D2 Original Recovery Emulsion so I decided to review it before I move onto the next product! Read below to hear my thoughts on it!
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Brand: Isa Knox
Name: X2D2 Original Recovery Emulsion
Price: £20-£25
Where to buy: Koreadepart, TesterKorea

Taken from Koreadepart's website:
'Relaxes skin and creates elastic and healthy face.'
'Nutritious and soft texture.'
'For dry skin.'

From shopdrops.com's website, this emulsion promises to 'recapture the lost moisture, suppleness and healthy glow due to accumulated sun exposure and the natural course of aging. Recovering the lost youthfullness of your skin is not impossible...Trust this Recovery Emulsion to do its job. Formulated with Cambium Stem Cell that nourishes damaged skin due to aging and in the process, recovers the health and beauty of your skin.'

Pretty good promises! I couldn't wait to try this emulsion since it said it was for dry skin so I had high hopes for it.
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This is the packaging of the sample - I've never really had a sample of serum before, especially not enough for two or more applications so this little bottle was pretty novel. It's packaged similar to the full sized product, with the gold and red colour scheme and scientific look.

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This is the full sized product packaging, which usually holds 130ml of the emulsion; I think that's pretty good compared to some other serums and emulsions. The packaging is neat looking but it's not cute or ugly. Due to the packaging of both the sample and full sized product, you can't scrape out absolutely all the product so it's inevitable that some goes to waste. I've been scraping out the sample product with a cotton bud but I can still tell there's some right at the bottle I can't reach.
application
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The emulsion is rather creamy and is inbetween a serum and cream/lotion...which makes sense, since it's the step inbetween. >_> It has a pleasant scent, I can't quite place it but it's kind of floral yet sweet. It smells a bit like hair conditioner to me haha, but not in a bad way. It absorbs and spreads easily with no greasy feel or residue.
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Partially rubbed in.

It definitely feels moisturising and creamy, which I really liked. Some emulsions are lightweight, which is a good thing, but they just get sucked up into my skin and it says 'More! I want more!' haha. I felt that this emulsion was sufficiently hydrating for its purpose, but I of course put an eye cream and face cream on top like I always do. After applying all my products, the emulsion feels hydrating but not sticky, greasy or too rich. After it absorbs, my face feels supple, plump and soft but it's nothing to make me say 'Wow! I need this emulsion!'. It's just a nice addition to my skincare routine.
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I was looking forward to trying an emulsion specifically for dry skin and I was pretty happy with the results. The emulsion made my skin hydrated, soft and supple and slotted in nicely with my current skincare routine. However, it's nothing to shout about, I feel another emulsion could do the job too. It doesn't make me want to rush out and buy it but I'd certainly consider it if I'd exhausted all my emulsion options. I can't comment on its 'recovery' benefits but I hope it prevents the visible signs of aging regardless. XD I give it 4 stars out of 5, taking one star off due to the fact it's nothing special and the price is a little hefty for a Korean emulsion. However, it is Isa Knox, which is more high-end than brands like The Face Shop, Innisfree, Skinfood, etc.

Monday, 3 November 2014

Event: Aurelio Voltaire European Tour 2014 & Halloween Tea Party in Chester ~Halloween Bonanza~

Hey everyone! What did you do for Halloween? My Halloweek was absolutely awesome and the cherry on top was having the absolutely perfect Halloween weekend afterwards *0* Some of you might know that I went to see Voltaire perform live at The Purple Turtle in London on Halloween, then the next day I went to Chester for a Halloween tea party at Mad Hatter's tea room. Welp...I'm about to gush about the whole weekend, but mostly Voltaire~ <3 I have the least amount of photos for the ultra gush-sesh (Voltaire) and tons of photos for the equally awesome yet not as miraculous Halloween tea party haha...

On Friday I got ready and headed to the coach to London...but not before almost having a heart attack and throwing up on the bus into the city centre by thinking I'd left my phone on a bin next to the bus stop, then finding it in my pocket...yes, you heard that right. Stupid story time! I was waiting for the bus into Derby city centre and rested my backpack and phone on a bin next to the bus stop. I looked at my phone and knew I had to put it in my leather jacket pocket and zip it up, or else I would lose or leave it somewhere...All was fine until I tried to find it in my backpack when I got on the bus...which of course, I couldn't. I emptied my whole backpack onto my lap, threw everything back in, stood up to see if it'd fell on the bus floor, all whilst looking like a mad woman and everyone wondering what the fuck I was doing. I tried to remember the last time I had my phone, hoping desperately that I'd left it at home, but I knew I'd rested it on that bloody bin next to the bus stop. I almost threw up thinking that I'd left it on that bin, wondering what the hell I was going to do, realising I had 5 minutes before I had to catch my coach, wondering if I could somehow tell the coach driver and take a taxi back to the dreaded bin to see if it was miraculously still there (of course it wouldn't have been)...until I brushed my hand across my coat pocket and felt a beautifully phone shaped lump. For 10 seconds, I hoped and prayed as hard as I've ever done, then when I found it in my coat pocket, everything was once again right in the world and I could take on anything...I disgust myself sometimes...

I am both Megatron and Starscream in this situation.

After getting on the coach, it was of course, selfie time.

Best one out of the lot. Also bewbs.

I added a few more Halloween accents onto my outfit once taking selfies...like the dumbass I am. >_> I added red devil horns to my hair, blood dripping necklace and fake blood nosebleed. Since I didn't get a photo of my kickass outfit, I'll do my make-up:

Base: The Face Shop Face It Moisture Pore Balm, Diorskin Star Foundation in 010 Ivory, Clinique Almost Powder in Fair, Missha Signature Extreme Cover Concealer, Etude House Lovely Cookie Blusher in Strawberry Mousse, MAC Pro Longwear Blush in Baby Don't Go (for contouring), Canmake Highlighter.

Eyes: Stargazer Eyeshadow in Black Gold, offbrand red eyeshadow, Heroine Make Smooth Liquid Eyeliner in Black, Gosh Velvet Touch Black Ink Eyeliner, Rimmel White Eyeliner, Avon Enchant Mascara, Clinique Lash Power Feathering Mascara, Eyemazing Amoyamo Eyelashes in Pop Rock/No. 817.

Lips: Vaseline Rosy Lips and The Saem Rouge Essential Moisture Lipstick in Blood Red.

The coach was late getting into London; it was supposed to get there at 5.10pm and doors opened at The Purple Turtle at 7pm. I wanted as long as possible to get to my hostel, dump my stuff and queue up for Voltaire. The coach didn't get there until 6pm so I made my way to the hostel (St Christopher's Inn in Camden, a mere 3 minutes away from The Purple Turtle!), indeed dumped my stuff and queued up at about 6.45pm. All day I had eaten 5 chocolate & caramel digestive biscuits and half a bar of Sainsbury's value chocolate so I stopped off at Sainsbury's and got a packet of Salt n' Vinegar crisps and I made the mistake of trying a Monster Juice energy drink because it was on offer for £1 and sure, I could use the energy all night! I don't drink energy drinks and Monster has a weird twang to it and made me feel a bit sick.

Doors opened at about 7.30pm (they were late) and although I was probably about 40th or 50th in the queue, I got straight to the fucking front row! Other people made the mistake of getting drinks and standing around talking to their friends at first. What losers. First on were The Memepunks, a party mash-up band I've mentioned before on my blog. They're great to warm up a gig. Next up were Gladstone, a sort of heavy Goth rock band who I didn't think much of, to be perfectly honest. They were okay but a bit of a mix of band members and their music just seemed very noisy without much melody to me. Then, of course, Voltaireeeeeeeeeeee~ <3

I was rightttttt at the front as Voltaire rocked the stage, performing songs including The Bottom of the Sea, Brains!, Day of the Dead, Mechanical Girl and Raised by Bats. He also performed two songs from his newest album that is yet to come out, an EP called Heart Shaped Wound. He was so awesome, really charming, funny, witty and attempted songs he didn't perform much, like Mechanical Girl and The Vampire Club, saying that when he fucked them up, they were 'limited edition' versions. XD He came really close to me a couple of times and I resisted touching him like a weirdo haha. It got to his end song, When You're Evil, when he announced that anyone who could get up on stage was more than welcome to become part of his 'Lord Beelzebub's Harmonic Choir' and sing the chorus with him! Of course, being right at the front I was straight up there, even with my daringly short dress and platforms. I got to stand right fucking beside him and sing When You're Evil with him! ...There were also other people on stage too, of course, but who cares about minor details? The point is I got to sing with Voltaire... *0* Afterwards he said he'd be at his merch table so I lined up to buy his latest album, Raised By Bats and perhaps get a photo with him if I was lucky? 

Yessssssss motherfuckerrrrrrrrrr <3 Not only did I get his CD, which he asked my name for and signed it, he took a ton of photos with me to ensure we got some nice ones, I told him I was super nervous and didn't know what to say and he told me not to be, gave me a big hug and asked to kiss me on both of my cheeks...to which, I said of course and almost died... <3

He was so nice, he spent so much time with each fan, taking lots of photos, signing anything, lots of hugs and kisses, etc...but of course, my autograph, photos, hugs and kisses were special ;) Afterwards I went back to my hostel at about 1am, went to sleep, dreamt that I was still at the club chatting to Voltaire, got a mere 4 hours sleep and had to get up at 5.30am to get ready for Chester the next morning!

So yeah, after 4 hours of sleep, I then got ready for the Halloween tea party in Chester...I had had so little sleep, my skincare hadn't properly absorbed so I didn't really have to apply more, other than my eye cream and moisturiser. XD As I got up at 5.30am to get ready, a girl came into our room and was only just getting back from partying! Hardcore! As I was putting on my make-up, she was taking hers off haha! I couldn't switch the light on in the main room since other people were sleeping so I had to apply my make-up using the light from the bathroom only lighting up half my face haha...I think I did pretty well, considering!


I was sort of a dolly March Hare? In reality I just threw an outfit together before I went to London and accepted that whatever shoes I wore with my Friday Halloween outfit, I'd be wearing on Saturday too... XD So it's not the greatest Lolita coordinate ever but I don't really care.






Skirt is looking dangerouslyyyyyyyyyy short here...partly due to the more upward-angled photograph, I swear!

The best part of the Halloween tea party was, of course, the tea party and seeing this cutie right here:




Jaydeeeeeeee <3






Lolita girlfriends <3




Jayde also secretly took photos of me taking selfies throughout the whole day haha...the worst part is, I didn't like any of them and deleted them! XD

After the tea party we went to the park and fed the squirrels! We bought monkey nuts and the squirrels actually come and take them out of your hands, so cute!




We had to watch out for greedy pigeons too! This one almost choked itself... *facepalm*

All in all the weekend was absolutely perfect...sure I got paranoid on public transport but nothing went wrong, I didn't lose anything or miss my trains, which I always worry about wherever I go! But seriously, the best Halloween ever, and I will never forget it (especially Voltaire <3)! Next up, I'm going to see Babymetal, Perfume, then trade at Hyper Japan so I'm currently making lots of items for Hyper Japan!